A Single Mom’s Adoption Story: How Adopting from India Gave Me a Family
A Birthday, a Nation, and a New Beginning
In our home, July 4th isn’t just America’s Independence Day — it’s my son Tommy’s birthday. His orphanage in India gave him this date, since his exact birthdate was unknown. But somehow, it always felt right.
Today, Tommy turns 31. My daughter, Devi, is 34. Both were adopted from India at the age of seven, just 2.5 years apart. They’ve grown up incredibly close — not only as siblings, but now as parents themselves. I’m a grandmother of four, and our lives are filled with laughter, connection, and love.
Though I’ve never married, I have everything I ever hoped for. Becoming a single parent through adoption from India gave me the family I dreamed of — and I want every single woman considering adoption to know: you don’t need to wait for marriage. All it takes is love and a willingness to say yes.
Why I Chose India Adoption as a Single Woman
Years ago, I visited India and saw the overwhelming number of children living in orphanages. But it wasn’t just the need that spoke to me. It was the warmth of Indian culture — the kindness of strangers, the vibrancy of life. It felt like a place I already belonged.
When I received a referral for a seven-year-old girl with minor special needs, I didn’t hesitate. The photo was grainy and black and white, the medical notes minimal. But something in my heart said, “She needs me as much as I need her.”
I said yes.
Meeting Devi: My First Step into Motherhood
When I traveled to India to bring Devi home, I met the director of the orphanage. As we said our goodbyes, he asked if I could help find families for the other children. I didn’t know how, but I said yes again.
That moment changed everything. I came home with Devi and a new sense of purpose — one that would shape the rest of my life.
Meeting Tommy: Growing Our Family Through Adoption
After I began working as the India Program Director at Children’s House International, I made frequent visits to orphanages across the country. On one of those trips, I met a boy named Shiva. He had a quiet strength and a gentle smile — and I found myself drawn to him every time I visited.
I tried to find him a two-parent home, thinking every boy needs a father figure. But none of the matches felt quite right.
Over time, I realized the truth: I was meant to be his mother.
Though I’d originally intended to advocate for him, it became clear that he was already part of my heart. When we began talking about names, he chose Thomas, after my grandfather. We’ve called him Tommy ever since.
By the time we started the adoption process, the system had evolved. Tommy’s referral included photos, videos, and comprehensive medical records. That made the journey smoother, but my bond with him had already been built — in person, over many visits, and over time.
When I brought him home, our family finally felt whole.
Building a Life — and a Calling — Through Adoption
That simple “yes” to one child became a lifelong mission. I joined Children’s House International, where I’ve now spent 26 years helping families adopt from India.
I helped expand our work into Nepal, Ghana, and Ethiopia. I even helped one little girl from Bhutan find her forever family. Each child, each placement, is part of a promise I made — and continue to keep.
A Full Life Through Single Parent Adoption
My children are grown, thriving, and raising families of their own. Though I’m still single, I’m surrounded by love, chaos, and the joyful noise of grandchildren.
Our life isn’t traditional, but it’s rich with meaning. It all began with one photo, one moment, and one resounding yes.
To Single Women Considering Adoption: You Are Enough
If you’re a single woman wondering if adoption is possible, let me tell you: it is. You don’t need to wait for the “perfect” time or partner. You are already enough.
You can offer love, stability, and a permanent home to a child. The India adoption process welcomes single parents — and the journey, though not always easy, is worth every step.
Start by exploring. Talk to someone who’s been there. Listen to your heart. And if it calls you to say yes — trust it.
Start Your India Adoption Journey Today
If you’re considering adopting a child from India, Children’s House International is here to guide you every step of the way. Our India adoption program supports single women, couples, and families from inquiry to homecoming.
You don’t have to have all the answers — just the courage to begin.
Sometimes, one yes is all it takes to change a child’s life — and your own.